I’m feeling a lot of pressure to have sex. How do I know if my boyfriend is just using me?
KIP Education :
Sometimes in relationships one person is ready to have sex but the other isn’t. This can be stressful — you don’t want to compromise what you’re not ready for or what you believe.
You need to do what is right for you. Anyone who tries to pressure you into having sex isn’t really thinking about what matters most to you. People who pressure others into having sex are only looking to satisfy their own feelings and urges about sex.
If you feel pressure to have sex because you’re afraid of losing your boyfriend, it may be a sign that you’re not in the right relationship.
Sex isn’t something you should feel you must do. Relationships are meant to be fun for both people. They should make you feel appreciated, respected, and supported, not pressured or uncomfortable. If your boyfriend truly cares about you, he won’t pressure you to do something you don’t believe in or aren’t ready for. So talk with your boyfriend about how you feel. If he’s the right guy for you, he’ll understand.
What’s an orgasm, exactly, and how do I know if I’ve had one?
KIP Education :
An orgasm is an intense, pleasurable physical feeling that can occur during sex or masturbation. Like many feelings, orgasms are difficult to describe. Orgasms vary from person to person, and can be different for the same person at different times. Some are more subtle, while others are very powerful. A person’s heart beats faster, breathing gets quicker, and muscles in the pelvis contract and then suddenly relax with a wave of feeling that can be pleasurable and, for many people, emotional.
Is masturbation wrong? I feel so guilty doing it.
KIP Education :
Lots of people have heard all sorts of myths and misinformation about masturbation. Some worry that masturbation may cause health or emotional problems — but that’s not true.
It’s normal for teens to masturbate. If someone is masturbating so much that it interferes with his or her daily life, that could be a problem, though.
Masturbation is often considered a private topic and some people may feel embarrassed to think or ask about it. And when you’re too embarrassed to talk about something, you might hear and believe things that aren’t accurate. If you have concerns or questions about masturbation, have a conversation with your doctor, nurse, or other health counselor — they’ll have heard questions like this before.
How painful is sex the first time?
KIP Education :
It varies. For some girls, there’s no pain whatsoever; for others, sex can be uncomfortable.
Some girls feel discomfort when the hymen stretches or tears, which can cause a little bleeding. Sometimes a girl may not be aroused (or she’s feeling nervous or worried) so her vagina isn’t lubricated enough for the guy’s penis to enter comfortably. Lubricated condoms can help. And of course, couples should always use a condom every time they have sex to protect against unplanned pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).
In general, though, pain during sex does indicate that things aren’t going as they should and it’s a good topic to talk to your doctor about.
How do you know when you’re really ready for sex?
KIP Education :
Sex is very intimate. It’s not just physical, it’s emotional too. It’s normal for teens to have strong sexual feelings, but it doesn’t always mean you have to act on them.
You can feel physically ready for sex but not be in the right relationship for any number of reasons. Because having sex is so emotionally powerful, it’s easy to get hurt. Sex is only part of a relationship. Other important things — like trust, mutual respect, and caring — need to be in place too.
Finally, for all its magic, sex can have a downside, such as an unplanned pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases (STD).